verbal abuse in the workplace?

by admin on August 21, 2010

k so i work at a local pizzeria in my town, my boss is a short arrogant italian man. he likes to yell allot and call people idiots or just verbaly abuse us. i was wondering if there was anything i could do to prevent this? i dont really want to get fired right now so i dont say much back to him. today i set a peice of plastic on a stove and he got upset cause it melted a bit and started yelling at me and called me an idiot and didnt understand that it was a mistake, a few seconds after that he dropped a bunch of boxes and i asked him if he was an idiot cause of that or if it was an accident and he threatend to fire me if i didnt keep my mouth shut. if theres anything i can do please let me know

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larsor4 August 21, 2010 at 2:14 pm

There’s nothing you can do. He’s not threatening your personal safety.

Is it right? No, he should treat his help with a little more respect. He is not, however, breaking any law by calling people idiots.

And talking back to your boss like that? Not a good idea.

cpbsensation August 21, 2010 at 2:14 pm

is it really worth the minimum wage to be treated like you were a moron? leave dude, I know the economy is bad, but i’m sure you can get a minimum wage job somewhere else.

grethomory August 21, 2010 at 2:14 pm

Yes, you can…you can file a complaint for verbal implications, but it’s probably not even worth it at a pizzeria.

OverRuled23 August 21, 2010 at 2:14 pm

IMO, it doesn’t matter where you work-being a boss does not give that person the right to demean their employees; no one should be subjected to intimidation and being yelled at, be it by a CEO or Cleaning person. You deserve to be treated with respect and civility, the same way your boss expects to be treated from you. It’s a two-way street. Then when it’s on the 6:00 news that some "employee took out their supervisor and other coworkers with an AK47" people wonder why.

Next time he starts yelling, don’t let him finish. Say as calmly and as slowly as possible so he gets every word, fold your arms in front of you and say loud and clear:

"I’m NOT here to be yelled at. When YOU decide to speak to me in a professional, civil AND calm manner, the way YOU expect ME to speak to YOU, I’ll listen." Pause inbetween the words "professional", civil and calm manner" and emphasize those words in caps. This shows you realize he’s intimidating you and you have a right to be rspected. You’re now in control of the situation, and the ball’s in your court.

Don’t wait for an answer. Walk, and document: Date, Time, Place, his full name/title, Situation, What he said to you, how, and what you told him (i.e. above sentences). Exact words. He gets a copy, including the date given.

If he yells at you again, say: "You forgot I TOLD you before NOT to yell at me?" Again, document, including the above sentence and a copy of that first document you gave him. Now you’ve got evidence that you asked him not to yell at you on two occasions.

If there’s someone higher than him-tell him, he gets copies. If not, the owner gets copies. I hope this doesn’t happen to you, but if you’re fired on some hearsay charge, your labor or workplace lawyer gets all copies of your documentations.

Sorry this was long. But there’s been too many questions on Answers about workplace harassment/intimidation, etc. and it’s escalating. Everyone’s out here for the sole purpose of paying their bills and life is hard enough as it is, without being intimidated and made to feel you’re incompetent by someone who feels that because he/she’s a "boss" that title includes demeaning employees.

All the best.

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