Your advice needed, thx a lot?

by admin on September 5, 2010

There is a girl at the workplace, she is 22. I am 28. She is working as a parttime intern next office.
2 weeks ago I had some connection to her. Chatted 4-5hrs on msn etc & it was really nice beginning. We called eachother to meet at the morning.On friday evening I asked her out for saturday night.That weekend we couldnt meet on saturday evening cuz she was busy (they had moved their house) I said ok.
Soma days passed.. And on tuesday I asked her out again for friday evening after work. She accepted. We had some time on friday at starbucks , then had dinnner at a nice place.
I drove her to the place where her brother & friends were. It was nice evening, but nothing romantic happened between us. I was a bit nervous too..
Friday night I asked her out again for sunday morning to have breakfast at the seaside etc.. Unfortunatelly we couldnt meet again cuz her friends from different city were coming..I said ok again.
On monday night I send her a message , whether she is ok cuz she hadnt come to work.
Sunday night her girlfriend’s brother had a traffic accident. She went to another city sunday late night. I called her monday night to check how she feels because she had replied to me in her message that her pschology is not so good because of her friends traffic accident.
I talked with her Monday evening for short time. I tried to build some morale to her. She thanked me for calling.
Yesterday I send her another message but she didnt reply to me. Afterwards I called her. But she didnt call back..I also dont want to push her too much cuz we dont have any relationship.
I can’t see her since friday work (our 1st date).
The traffic accident of her friend is real..She doesnt lie to me. But if she was interested in me, wouldnt she call me back or at least send a message yesterday?

I am in mixed feelings. Actually I like this girl very much, but I feel she doesnt have same interest to me. Cuz until now I made all the effort. But I cant see same interest from her.
Hope you understand what I mean. Do you have any suggestions what shall I do, cuz I like her really much.
Thx a lot.

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JohnnyBoy September 5, 2010 at 7:35 am

She obviously likes you, because she agreed to go out with you and she thanked you for calling. She just needs her space right now, don’t push her. When she is ready she will call you. Hope this helps.

babrunette September 5, 2010 at 7:35 am

shes going through a tough time. let her be and when she is ready to talk again she will

RapeFace September 5, 2010 at 7:35 am

The only way this girl is ever going to be attracted to you is if you cut your losses now.
Date someone else immediately, and stop talking/texting/IMing the girl from work for at LEAST a month. Two is better. Then, after that time, you can see if anything has changed between you two. But if you keep trying to get with this girl, she’s only going to want you less and less.

sam September 5, 2010 at 7:35 am

relax. when shes ready to talk then shell talk
give her space and see if she comes around

please help with mines?

Ash September 5, 2010 at 7:35 am

Well you haven’t really known this girl very long at all, and she is going through a rough time right now with her friend being in a car accident. Give her some time and some space to deal with what’s really important in her life right now and to let her deal with her bad news. She’s trying to keep it together right now and probably trying to cheer up her friend also. If I was in that situation the guy who I had gone out with once or twice would be the last thing on my mind even if I really liked him. Give her until at least mid week before you call her again, and don’t worry that she hasn’t returned your call, she’s got bigger problems to deal with right now.

Evolette September 5, 2010 at 7:35 am

I don’t think she would lie because girls don’t make THAT much effort to avoid a guy. This event might be really amotional to her and that if you liked her alot you’d give her time to go back to normal.

Brooke September 5, 2010 at 7:35 am

Just let her be, give her a couple of days, dnt try to start a conversation. Just txt her every couple of days saying i Hope you feel better. Just small talk. She just needs space. Let her be.

Hope i helped!

shellzz September 5, 2010 at 7:35 am

with everything that has happened in her life rite now just wait until she gets back to her normal life!ya know?with her friends brother in the accident you may just want to chill for a little while!you dont want to bug her…just give her some time!when she gets back to her norm then ask her on another date!i think shes interested!if she wasnt she would have gone on those dates!just kinda take it one step at a time!i think that she is definatly in a hard time cause shes probably rele close to the family that had the man in the accident so just kind be there for her when she calls you!be a shoulder to cry on if she needs it!call he maybe on a weekly term,maybe call her 3 times unless yall get somethin goin!good luck!i hope this helps!

Gee D September 5, 2010 at 7:35 am

if she hasn’t commited scuicide yet. then here’s what you should do. find out where she is. buy her some flowers. drop them off. if she looks too down, then don’t ask. if she looks depressed. ask her out. but don’t take no for an answer. if she says she can’t, ask why. if she don’t want to, tell her it’ll be fun. just say think about it. say you’ll call to check up on how’s she’s doing. tell her to take it easy. tell her she should try to get some rest to clear her mind. call her in the morning. after that. see if she still wants to go. if she does’nt, go over to her house with some hard liquor. buy some tylenol, advil, whatever. tell her to take care of herself. see if you can stay with her tonight. if she says yes. don’t drink with her. wait til’ she falls asleep. then tuck her in. when she wakes up in the morning, you can help her out of bed. cook her breakfast, take her for a walk. talk a lot. get her to feel comfortable around you. what you are doing is helping her depression. and at the same time earning her fondness. she will thank you for helping her out. ask her out to the amusement park.

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